thank you for your question.
As for your question in regards of getting married in Polen and what is needed I found out the following:
You have to submit a number of documents: a proof of identity (e.g. a valid passport), a certificate of birth (translated into Polish), a certificate of no impediment and (if necessary) certificates that prove that previous marriages have been divorced etc. The Registry Office will guide you through the procedure from there on.
For extensive information about marriage in Poland please check out this website:
As for the options you have oulined it seems to me that option 1 and 3 are the best ones in your particular case.
I hope we could help you, if you have further question please let us know.