How long should I expect ( waiting for a year ) the waiting time for my assylum response?

Question

Hello everyone, grateful for this forum.

My situation is a bit complicated, and I need some assistance.

About a year ago I started my marriage process with my German partner, and it’s in the final stages,

However I am unhappy in this relationship as he doesn’t treat me well, but rather sees me as a house maid and he doesn’t pay his bills well and we have no heating or hot water all this has led me realise he is just using me to cook, clean and take care of his daughter. I am well aware that this relationship isn’t good for my mental, emotional or physical health. However, my asylum interview was done about a year ago and I am still waiting for my results

My worry is if I go away now and then my results turn out negative then that would be a problem too

I am from India and I know Indians hardly get a positive result, and I m seeking asylum on humanitarian grounds, as while in India I was threatened with death  if I don’t get married to the boy my parents choose. I m also currently beginning my German language school.

what are my best options here ? And I am aware it’s not possible for bamf to give a specific time and I have to wait

But I am mentally not doing well with all of this that’s happening around me.

Please suggest

Answer 1

Hallo,

 BAMF has no specific timeline to respond it can take months or years. I was once in a toxic marriage the man pretended like he loved me. He made heavily empty promises and lies. We got married and few months later, l couldn't take it and l divorced him. He never thought l would leave him considering l was still holding my Aufenthaltsgestattung. l chose my mental health over documents. It was the best decision l made. I tell you the divorce took a strain on my shoulders and considering l had not applied my residency and was still facing deportation. We had no property together or children together but the divorce took 3 years+ . You wouldn't want to risky your mental state over documents. Leave the man before you regret. When you are married here everything will be based on that man and worse he can compromise your paperwork which will lead you to regret, depression etc. Don't allow this abuser to feel he own you. l hope this will help you or any woman going through the same situation.

Take care

xx

Comments

Hello, thank you for your message. I am so sorry you had to go through this and I am glad you choose yourself. While you love someone I know how hard it must have been for you.
And these exactly were my fears, if he shows no love or care or even reciprocate and I know he is using me big time only for his convenience, I know it scares me to marry him,
Especially with German laws, where once you are married and you are working everything is divided between the two of you and this guy is always wanting money .

However, can I ask you how did you then get your documents? Knowing that you didn’t have any papers even though were married. And is getting a divorce that hard
I have also thought about this and realised at least now with being a refugee I have wg that’s paid for but if I marry this guy I will have no support financially until I start to work and during that time if something happens I will be homeless

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Thank you.
These are hidden stories that our sisters are going through. l chose not to apply for resident permit after the marriage because it made no sense to do so because l was already wanting to get out. l saved my myself from all the bureaucracy and chose freedom.

*When you are married in Germany and you  conceive with another man the child belongs to your husband and even if the divorce is not legally binding the child will belong to your ex husband.  
l received my documents but not through marriage l later had a child with another man.