Hallo i wrote on this blog during my pregnancy and am here because the problem has not Changed,I gave birth 3 weeks ago,to healthy baby girl,with the Vaterschaftsest and the birth certificate of the baby I Applied to stay as family but it got denied,the claim I have to back to my county of Orign kenya to get a visa to reunite with the father of my child.Am obviously scared that they will want me to leave the baby behind and take the baby away from me or I go to Kenya with the baby and they deny me of ever coming back because I was illegally here I extended my visa that I had come with as a student in Austria

They gave me until October to decide and they still are holding my passport

Please help
asked Sep 9, 2021 in Legal advice by Gerber Peggy | 1,581 views
You should go. It is the easiest and quickest way. I went back and came back already. If your not in danger in your country I recommend you to go.
But they are holding my pp and am in danger, and i was here illegally
@Lorie, how long did u stay in africa b4 coming back? Did Auslanderbeholden give u pre-approval letter? How did u book appointment on line to come fast? Where u allowed to carry ur baby along? What country are u from too?
@Lorie, please could you write me your email address i have some questions to ask you concerning ur reunion visa. My email add is Obumkelly79@gmail.***

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I was here illegally too. And the Behörde gave me my passport back when I decided to go back home. You should ask for a vorabstummung. The Behörde will give you that document. It will help you to get the visa to come back here in Germany. Just make sure to go back home with your child. Don't leave your child in Germany. Honestly if you really want this to be sorted out quickly it is the easiest way.
answered Sep 16, 2021 by Lorie
Can you please give me your email or any contact so that I can ask you questions,I think going back is the only solution but am freaking out they won’t let me back
My email is cathywan2@gmail.***
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1st you can never be deported as long you have vaterschaft and sorgerecht.
Am from Kenya you can me an email Mugane66@gmail.***
Uko Bayern?
answered Sep 10, 2021 by Poji1234
Yes am in Dillingen an der Donau
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Dear Salome Mkota,

Welcome back to the Wefugees Community and thank you for reaching out to us again.

First of all, congratulations on the new baby and all the best! 

I hope you have read my colleague Alla's answer on your last question? She gave some very important advice here and from my perspective, her recommendations are still valid in your current situation.

If the immigration office is not willing to issue a residence permit according to section 28 of the German Residence Act and insisting you to travel back to Kenya for a visa procedure instead, please contact a lawyer or a migration counselling office for support. Don't worry - the authorities will not seperate you and the child! 

Don't hesitate to keep us updated or to get back to us with any further questions as well.

Best wishes,


answered Sep 11, 2021 by Meike
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Go get a lawyer if you truly have Vaterschaft and Sorgerecht done. Sorgerecht is very important, if you don't have it better go make one and mk sure it's 50/50 right because that would be a strong ground for your lawyer to fight( best advice a friend got from her lawyer and it worked ) ... Act fast, pray and believe.
answered Sep 12, 2021 by Vrie
Yes I have Vaterschaft and Sorgerecht but have not yet applied for kids passport.
They insist on me going back even though they have withheld my passport,so I am confused .
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Just take your child's birth certificate or registration of birth, your Ausweis and the father's passport (go with the father)to your Bürgerbüro and collect the child passport, then you send a copy of the child's passport to the Ausländerbehörde and apply for your resident permit as mother of a German child . That's how it's done in my town
answered Sep 12, 2021 by Vrie
Okay,I will do that from Tomorrow as soon as I can,thank you so much for taking your time to answer my questions
I will definitely  keep you updated
Have a great sunday
hi, after submitting all the documents  you mentioned above how long will it take to have a residence permit as a mother of German child?
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I was there 4 weeks. Yes I did get a pre approval letter from the Behörde. I book an appointment online while been here in Germany. Am from Cameroon.
answered Sep 16, 2021 by Lorie
And yes I went with my child.
@felise well I don't know about your situation, as for everyone is different. May be you can stay and still get the chance to get your aufenthaltstitel. As for myself I have decided to go back because in the end it was the easy way to sort everything out quickly. I was here illegally too but I never had to deal with Staatsanwaltschaft to close my illegal stay. I don't know how it works really. All am saying is that if you don't have any problems back home in your country and your child is German and you get the vorabstummung from the Behörde is best to just go back and sort it out quickly. If you don't want to well I wish you best of luck to try other way. Everything is possible. Have faith.
@lorie, pls during ur 4weeks away from germany was ur AOK still valid and ur informations showing u where living in germany still showing or cancelled? Bcos, someone said once someone live for familyreunion visa all ur informations are wipe out.. and u will start afresh once u come back to germany. How was yours pls?
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@obumkelly79 I stayed for 4weeks. I went with my child. I book the appointment online while been here in Germany. I went once back to my country few days before the appointment. Am from Cameroon. I also get a pre approval before going. Its call the vorabstummung.
answered Sep 16, 2021 by Lorie
@Lorie, ur country is very good ooo.. my country only appointment online take 1year before u get ur appointment and 6months plus after submission before u get ur visa. So, where will someone stay for 6months? Someone that have not build a house or even hv savings etc. Nigeria is very difficult......
@obumkelly79 well to get appointments in my country it take so much time too. That's why I wanted to be sure to have one before leaving. I think the Germany rules applies everywhere. If you have a the vorabstummung it won't take that long trust me. In the end its not the only way to get everything sorted. So other way works too. For myself that was what I had done and was just sharing to see if it could help anyone here.
@Lorie i will not go back, i will buy more time by reapplying and also in court so that i can continue to work and save more money. I am working for 8 months now and I have save alot, if i must go and come back by then I will know am going as holiday to chill in my homeland for 6months before coming back, only when money is Much Everything is brain brain lol
@Lorie everything is by faith maybe God can still perform his miracle and i don't have to go back.. Then i will invest my money on other things than wasting some of it on ticket, to and fro
Hello Lorie, I'm in the same situation as Salome, and I have other questions about going back for the reunification Visa. Can you please write me on marrisochuba@gmail.***. thanks
@Obumkelly79. I want to ask. Because I'm also a Nigerian and I'm currently in same situation. I know everything about Nigeria is always difficult. But I want to ask, did you go to Nigeria and how long did it take you.
I spent less than 4weeks
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