Dear @Evans2020,
Welcome to the Wefugees Community and thank you for reaching out to us.
This very important question as well as the order of the required steps should definitely be discussed with a lawyer or an experienced counselling office! Every case is different and needs to be assessed individually. Here on this public platform we can just deal with general questions (we are no lawyers either). I hope you understand.
You may use this search engine to find a counselling office close-by.
However, it will be essential that you recognise the paternity officially (if you haven't done it already).
Please also don't hesitate to get back to us with further (maybe less case-by-case level) questions.
All the best,
Meike