Welcome to the Wefugees Community and thank your for reaching out to us.
I am sorry to hear that you find yourself in such a difficult situation. About the divorce procedure in Germany, please see this thread on our platform, for instance. If you are getting divorced in a third country, you may need to register the divorce with the German authorities as they might not recognise it otherwise. This would most probably not apply if you are officially getting divorced in another EU country. As Norway is not an EU country though, I am not sure how the procedure would look like. I would highly recommend you to get in contact with a women or migration counselling office. They can support you with your legal questions but also in a psychosocial way. Please let us know if you need help in finding one in your region.
Regarding your second question: As fas as I understand, you are still in the asylum procedure, as you mentioned your Aufenthaltsgestattung. During a pending asylum procedure you can not get deported. In case the BAMF is not deciding in a positive way on your application, there might be other options for you to apply for a residence permit in Germany (independent from your husband). But this really depends on so many factors and circumstances and should also be discussed on an individual basis - for instance in an earlier mentioned counselling office.
I hope this helps for now and please don't hesiatate to get back to us with further questions.
All the best,