Welcome to the Wefugees community and thank you for sharing your question.
Please have a **** at this thread in which we discussed a very similar situation. As far as I understand, as long as your family in general has enough money for not being dependent on social money, that requirement should be fulfilled. Am I right on this dear @mbeon-Christine or @mbe-on_Zsigó?
And to your second question: When you have a permanent residence permit, your status is not dependent on your spouse anymore.
I hope this helps and please don’t hesitate to get back to us with any further questions.
All the best,