Hello @Kim mimi,
thank you for sharing your questions with the Wefugees community.
I'll follow your sequence in order to answer them.
1. As to the first point: Citizenship is acquainted by birth in the Netherlands. if f.e. the mother was a Dutch citizen at the time of giving birth.
2. This is also the case in Germany. At least one parent has to hold a German passport or a permanent resident permit here.
3. This question was not completely clear for me, because you wrote that your female partner already has a Dutch citizenship. You, as the father of a Dutch child and potential husband of a Dutch citizen can apply for a Dutch citizenship after three years of stay with your partner.
4. As husband of a Dutch women you can get a visa for spouse reunification, Let's take a closer look at the marriage regulations:
You have to meet the following general conditions:
o In this certificate you provide information on your criminal record. You state, for example, that you have not committed any crimes. You also state that you have not submitted any incorrect information, nor have you stayed in the Netherlands illegally.
- (After having arrived in the Netherlands, you will undergo a medical test for tuberculosis (TB). The form for this is here: https://ind.nl/en/Forms/7603.pdf), it will provide you with some further information about this matter.
Specific conditions you have to comply with in case of spouse reunification:
- You and your partner are married to each other or have entered into a registered partnership together.
- You and your partner are both 21 years or older.
- You and your partner are going to live together.
- You have passed the civic integration examination abroad or you are exempt from taking this examination.
- Your partner has the Dutch nationality or has a valid Dutch residence permit.
- Your partner has an independent sufficient and sustainable income.
- Your partner declares that he or she is your sponsor. (What she can do only if she has a sufficient income).
5. If your potential wife finds work here, of course you can live here. You may then apply for a residence permit as a family member of an EU citizen in Germany.
6. - 8. If you apply for a residence permit, this will terminate your asylum procedure. You won't have to apply for asylum in the Netherlands if you get a spouse reunification visa.
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