thank you for being such an active part of our community.
I do understand it is very hard to wait, but as mentioned in my previous answer:
1. You can get the same Status as your daughter as she is a minor.
2. The Delay is not unusual, but you could ask how long it might take. I suggest here that you submit the question in written.
However, you need to get in touch with the BAMF and the Ausländerbehörde in written in order to get the same title such as your daughter. This does not happen without you starting the process.
I hope I could assist you now, if you need further clearification please do not hesitate to reach out to us.