Domestic violence with me and my son

Question

My son and me are being everyday emotionally and verbally abusing by my husband and my son's step father. My husband treats with my sin very badly as he is a step father of my son. My husband provides us only grocery. He is also paying for my Deutschkurs but everyday he shouted me without any reason. So many times said get out from my house. Sometimes gives silent treatment to us. Actually he is a Narcissistic personality. He blames me for everything. Now he wants that we should leave his house. But I have no other option. Every day I am dying. Sometimes he said to me I will deport to you and your son to India.
I had marry to this person in March 2022 and came here in Deutschland in November 2022.
I don't want to live with him. I can work for me and my son. Where can I go for help?

Answer 1

Dear Sonia,

Welcome to the Wefugees Community and I am so sorry to hear what you have to go through!

It is absolutely right to seek help in your situation!

My colleague was providing very useful information in two threads where people have found themselves in a similar situation. Please follow this link and check also this thread. He explains in the first one:

"If your partner is not willing to leave and you feel unsafe and have no other place to go, you can be housed at a women’s shelter (Frauenhaus). These exist throughout Germany. They will provide you and your son with a place to stay and your partner will not be able to find out where you are. The staff at a Frauenhaus will also assist you with other day-to-day matters and bureaucracy.

Here is a site you can search all over Germany in English for such a place:

https://***.frauenhaus-suche.de/en/?jumpto=searchResults&cHash=9984fd0e661a53907dfb5d70ff4fdffe

If you feel in immediate danger, you can always call the police on 110."

I hope the advice from these two threads helps and please don't hesitate to get back to us with any further questions.

I wish you a lot of strength and all the best,

Meike 

Answer 2

Hi. l am sorry for what you are going through. Don't stay in an abusive marriage.Think of your son he can't be witnessing this abuse. Yes seek help even the police can help and women shelter caters for such cases. l was once in a relationship with a narcissistic he showed his colors when l was pregnant. He dumped me and the child. Till today l blame myself.  All the best my sister.