Hi @liebenleben
Thanks for detailing your situation. I myself work in Saxony, not Bayern, and the rules around accessing the labour market while in the asylum process can vary slightly from German state to state. This is my understanding of the situation:
The Bavarian Ministry for the Interior states the following:
An asylum seeker who does not have to live in an ANKER center can be allowed to take up employment after the third to ninth month after submitting the asylum application if he or she does not come from a safe country of origin, unless the asylum application has been filed before August 31, 2018. Albania, Bosnia and Herzegovina, Ghana, Kosovo, North Macedonia, Montenegro, Senegal and Serbia are considered safe countries of origin. The granting is at the discretion of the immigration authorities. The positive and negative discretionary aspects resulting from the respective individual case are taken into account.
Here's the link to the original German text:
https://***.stmi.bayern.de/mui/asylsozialpolitik/zugang_arbeitsmarkt/index.php
The important word here is 'can'. The decision to allow your wife to work or not is at the discretion of the authorities (ZAB).
There is a detailed account of how the authorities are to decide on this in a document called Vollzugshinweise bei Beschäftigung und Berufsausbildung von Asylbewerbern und Geduldeten from the Bavarian Ministry of the Interior. It explains in great detail how the authorities are to decide in the case of a person who wishes to work in the months 3 - 9 of their asylum process and who do not live in a asylum seeker reception centre. Pages 13 - 20 cover your wfie's particular situation.
https://***.fluechtlingsrat-bayern.de/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/1_Vollzugshinweise_zur_beschaeftigung_und_berufsausbildung_von_asylbewerbern_und_geduldeten_vom_13.07.2020.pdf
An authority does not have the right to ignore a request. They are obliged to provide you with an asnwer in writing, either providing the work permit or rejecting the application. If they reject the application, they are obliged to provide the legal grounds for having done so.
If your application is not being processed, you can lodge a legal application called an emergency application (Eilantrag) with the local administrative court (Verwaltungsgericht). Depending on the circumstances, they can then make the authority decide on the matter. I advise you to seek out legal advice before taking such a step.
I also recommend you first contact a special project called Bleib in Bayern who work specifically on issues related to access to the labour market for asylum seekers in Bayern. Here's their contact information:
https://***.fluechtlingsrat-bayern.de/projekte/bleib-in-bayern/
Let us know if you need any more help with this.
Éanna