Thank you for your reply.
If you hold an "Aufenthaltsgestattung" you are still in the asylum procedure, am I right? As long as you are in that process, you can not apply for a residence permit (in your case according to §28 AufenthG as father of a German child). You may want to discuss carefully with a lawyer or an expert on refugee/migration law, if a withdrawal of the application could make sense in your individual situation.
However, also for the future, it will be important that you are officially recognized as the father ("Vaterschaftsanerkennung") and you can prove that you take care of the child.
In general, after being in the asylum procedure for 9 months you are allowed to work. However, this is not the case for applicants from so-called "safe countries of origin" (Albania, Bosnia-Herzegovina, Ghana, Kosovo, Macedonia, Montenegro, Senegal, Serbia). Unfortunately, those people can not get a work permit as long as the case is pending.
I hope this helps and please get back to us with any further questions.
All the best,