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Hi, My name is Jey and I am new here, I would really appreciate if people here can help me with proper advice and guidance.

I was an asylum seeker but during the first appeal the court I was blessed with a baby from a German mother (my child is now 3 years old). So I decided to not to go further because first I could easily stay here with my German Child, second due to extreme intoxication problems I unfortunately made many mistakes with law enforcement officers, these were too many but none of them was a serious crime.

Later on I started having problems with my ex and she immediately wanted my joint custody so that she could kick me out of Germany. But gladly I survived, but because of my double diagnose and living in an isolated facility, and no permission to work until now, I started getting alcoholic again, and started making more minor problems until my ex got angry again because I was regularly in touch with my son, and so she made her second attempt to take my custody away, with a lot of efforts I survived.

Everything started getting back to normal because I took a long-term therapy, and the whole year of 2020 was nice and we were kinda together again until Christmas, when we started having troubles again, she again went to the court to take my joint custody away and this time I relapsed on alcohol again and couldn't defend myself as before. She succeeded, I made an appeal to the Oberlandesgericht and earlier this month I lost the case.

I have add here that because of my intoxication Caritas who normally organize my appointments with my child refused to do so any further after the last November. And since then I haven't seen my child.

Gladly I am going to a very long-term therapy again in the next few days, but I spoke with a lawyer today, he gave me some very serious warning that because normally even when you only have visiting rights you are eligible for a residence permit, and in my case there were too many criminal records involved, so my joint custody was the only thing that was saving me, and if I can't continue visiting my child then the Aüslanderbehorde wouldn't even hasitate to give me a deadline or to give me an opportunity to appeal their decision, they would simply send the police and kick me out, since they already have my passport and other documents.

1. I am suffering with my alcoholism.
2. In a matter of a few days I am going for a long-term treatment.
3. This matter of deportation will come soon, the Aüslanderbehorde is only waiting for the decision papers from the court, this was already confirmed with fax from the Aüslanderbehorde to the family court that as soon as I lose my joint custody they will initiate the process of my deportation.
4. I don't know what to do now. I am feeling really sick at the moment.

I will appreciate your answers. LG!
asked Mar 24, 2022 in Legal advice by Jey | 636 views

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Dear @Jey

Welcome to the Wefugees Community and thank you for reaching out to us. 

I am very sorry to hear about your difficult situation and the ups and downs you experienced in the last years. On the other hand, I am very glad to hear that you are about to start a long-term therapy again! You are doing really well in not giving up and try to get control over your life. That is the only way with perspective, from my opinion. 

I’m afraid, however, that we can not give you a general advice on this platform regarding your residence and legal situation. You consulted already a lawyer and if the person is specialized in Migration and residence law, he or she can give you much more detailed and tailored information in your complex situation than we are able to offer here. 

The only thing I can recommend is maybe contacting a migration counseling office as well - especially for psychosocial support. Please let us know if you need help in finding a respective office close to your location. 

All the best and especially a strong will for your therapy! 

Regards, 

Meike

answered Apr 2, 2022 by Meike
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