The father of my child is married for many years we just got a baby together and his wife is blind about all this. Jobcenter is asking for some papers that include bank details, he is scared to give because the wife may know and he doesn't want to break his home me too I don't want what can we do it for jobcenter to stop disturbing him
asked Jun 21, 2021 in Other Questions by Lilly | 344 views
Dear @Lilly, Thank you for reaching out to the Wefugees Community. Can you maybe describe in more detail what exactly your question is? I could't get it exactly from your explanations. Looking forward to hear from you again. All the best, Meike
Search results for I meant that I have a child with a married man and I leave alone with my children the father to my daughter lives with his wife. Im also jobless in germany I recieve Leistung from jobcenter sgb2 or Hertz 1v now jobcenter is sending the father to my kid Letters to show how he pass unterhalt asking for many papers and the father to my kid can't provide them because they are having joint account with the wife anything he does the wife must know and he is trying to avoid that Drama because the wife does not know that he is having a child anywhere outside marriage. How can he solve this issue with jobcenter? what can he tell the jobcenter since he can not provide the papers. Because I tried to tell them that he is paying unterhalt they didn't believe they need papers

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Dear @Lilly

Thank you for your explanations. Your situation sounds indeed complicated and I still haven't fully understood what kind of papers the jobcenter is asking for. However, I am afraid that the jobcenter will not show consideration for your child's father's issue caused by his double life. For the jobcenter it is always important to have proofs of everything related to the financial situation - verbal explanations will not be sufficient. Therefore, you will most probably not be able to help him in this. 

In any case, please don't hesitate to get back to us with any further questions. 

All the best, 


answered Jun 27, 2021 by Meike
Good morning thankyou for the quick feedback
The papers i meant is eg how he work and how much he is earning to send the 3 years loanabrechnung if he is selbständig  but unfortunately he cant provide them because they are having joint with the wife in everything they do
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